Couple’s Counseling

You’re engaged, you’re moving in, you’re ready for more commitment. It’s a great idea to come in, it provides you with the opportunity to discuss your value systems, potential differences, your goals and dreams, your ideas of a great marriage (partnership) and how you envision your roles, and your parenting styles if you plan on having children.

Premarital Counseling

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You’re two years or twenty years into your relationship and you feel like it’s stagnating. You are not making enough time for the relationship, you don’t have enough time to recharge by yourself, you are in a rut and feel drained. It’s time to come in and take a fresh look at where you are at, what’s missing, and how things could be better.

Relationship Plateau

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You’re not seeing eye to eye anymore, somehow you have ended up on different teams. Maybe there are trust issues, some resentment over longstanding differences, frequent fights, and sex, that’s out the window. It’s time to come in to figure out how you got here and what you want to do about it.

At Crossroads

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Maybe one or both of you want out, you grew apart, you’re done, you never saw it coming but it happened. You started going separate ways a while ago, the kids is what kept you going, and now you just can’t anymore. It’s time to come in and face the truth, process what happened, and discuss next steps.

Breaking Point

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My Approach to Couple’s Counseling

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The majority of couples that come in to see me will say something like, “we have communication issues, we need better ways to communicate.” And most of the time I will tell them, that it’s not just the communication necessarily that’s the issue but all that has happened since the beginning of time, personality differences, different backgrounds, and upbringing, and so on. At some point, most of my couple clients will hear me say, “it takes two to tango.” We will look at what both parties contribute for better or worse, and we will figure out what you want to do about it.

I use the Gottman’s method loosely to guide me, but my approach to couple’s counseling is mostly experiential, meaning experiencing you “in action” in session which is why I always tell couples, that if you can come in to see me in-person you will get more out of it. When indicated, I will ask couples if they are okay with me coming into their home to see them “in action” in their own environment and it’s usually the most telling experience.

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I provide in-person office, virtual sessions, as well as home visits for couples.

Couple’s Session - $250 for 1 ½ hour session

Home Visits - a travel fee based on distance from the office will be added.

Unless prior arrangements have been made, payment is expected at time of service.

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